Finding Your Own Plus Size Style

One question I get asked a lot is "how did you decide on your own personal style?" I know from the many emails I receive that women can really struggle with knowing what suits them and getting out of a style rut.
I experienced my own crisis of confidence after I had my little girl. In a moment of sleep deprived madness I cut my hair into a bob (easier to look after) and started living in a uniform of tunic tops, jeans and ugg boots. 

In times square New York  with a sleeping baba-I had lost my fashion compass and wasnt happy

I looked like every other mum at the mother and baby groups I attended and whilst I absolutely hated it I wasn't sure how to regain my style confidence. 
At 35 I wondered if I was too old to be fussing with fashion, maybe mumsy and low key was how it was supposed to be?
The cycle was broken after about eight months when by chance I saw a 1940's inspired dress in Next and brought it. When I tried it on  it felt like coming home. 
I suddenly saw my reflection for the first time in a while. Other than a shockingly bad haircut and a severe lack of make up I looked great. I wasn't old, I was just beginning. I  rediscovered my  fashion mojo and have never looked back.
As I built my confidence I found adding accessories really helped develop my creative side without feeling too full on. I still pay a lot of attention to what I wear with outfits and today is no exception.

Take one dress

This gingham skater dress £15 by Yours is quite a simple little number. Black top, gingham skirt and a fairly predictable skater cut. Nothing wrong with that but I like my outfits to have a bit more zing.
To this end I have added a fur scarf,a black patent Vivienne Westwood bag and a pair of french navy Mary Janes  I have finished it off with a shrug by Simply be £32

Accessories can transform even the simplest of outfits

With just a few additions I have turned something fairly simple into an outfit entirely individual to me. I now know that no one will be wearing this exact same look and this pleases me no end.
By adding the fur stole and designer handbag this everyday outfit now feels glamorous and striking.

Me and my pug shadow

If you have found my blog because you are on the cusp of changing the way you dress, maybe you are bored by what you wear everyday or feel you have lost your way and fear ridicule if you try bolder, more dynamic looks then start slowly. Play with accessories and new shapes. Even the addition of a statement necklace to an otherwise all black outfit can change your look completely and as you gain confidence (and start to receive compliments because believe me nothing is more attractive than someone who owns their personal style) you will start to love the process of getting dressed in the morning.

learn to love getting dressed in the morning

For loads of outfit inspiration check out my other outfit posts.Proof if it was ever needed that fat women in their forties can actually look pretty damn amazing.

Photos by Nicky Rockets

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