Thursday, 6 November 2014

Don't Live Someone Elses Dream

Last week the author Elizabeth Gilbert (she wrote Eat,Pray,Love) wrote a piece on her facebook page that really struck a cord. Its worth reading in its entirety but the headline was "Don't live someone else's dream"
I'm a great believer that when the universe knows you are ready and listening it tells you everything you need to know and this random comment sums up my state of mind perfectly.
I know my blog posts have been fewer recently and I hope you don't think I have gone off the boil. I am still as in love with fashion and art and make up and films as I have ever been and have some lovely blog posts planned but recently I had been feeling a bit burnt out with how competitive blogging has become.
I had stopped seeing this as a glorious hobby and started taking it and myself way too seriously. The time required to stay even slightly ahead of the game was becoming exhausting. When I wasn't interacting on twitter, updating my facebook page, adding images to my tumbler account, pinning my photos to pinterest I felt I wasn't doing my blog justice but these things are all time thieves and recently I have decided I want some of that time back.
So I have to all intents and purposes stopped for a while and do you know what it feels like freedom.
I don't want to be so busy photographing my food I let it go cold, so keyed up about posting new blogs that I leave the solitude of a peaceful holiday to find wifi and I don't want my self esteem to be measured in likes on a facebook photo. 
I love writing and have no plans to stop and I also adore clothes so whenever I feel sassy will take some pictures and share them but I think being a full time blogger is someone elses dream. My life outside of the internet is just too good for me to want to be away from it for the amount of time required to keep up with other established plus size bloggers (who I adore by the way this is all about me not  a thinly veiled pop at anyone else-those girls are all goddesses)
I want to spend time with my child, walk my dog, go for chai lattes with my beautiful friends and just have time to kick back and think.
Since staging my own online intervention I feel so much calmer.I have been journaling and tonight felt relaxed enough to write this but I think for a while at least the 3-4 times a week blog content needs to be rested. I need a recharge.
Life is good
So I'm not going anywhere, I will be back with regular fashion posts and I hope you stick with me but the pace will be slightly slower, the posts weekly rather than daily and the social media interaction more ad hoc. 

I am pursuing my own dreams and it feels wonderful.They include pink journals filled with ideas, geranium scented candles lit for my Goddess altar, walking through crisp brown leaves whilst listening to Richard Hawleys Cole Corners album and drinking hot chocolate in front of the fire stroking the cat.Oh and dressing up as a Weeping Angel from Doctor Who which I did on Halloween.
My Halloween Get up

I found a piece of paper inside a book the other day with a quote by Anais Nin which I had obviously copied from somewhere years ago. This was the quote:

"Throw your dreams into space like a kite, and you do not know what it will bring back, a new life, a new friend, a new love, a new country"
Anais knew 

The universe knew what I needed!

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  1. Good for you! I will miss seeing the hottness that is Mrs Pamper so often but I understand about needing to make yourself feel happy and fulfilled and have had a lot of conversations recently with older, wiser women about this myself

  2. Love you lady. I knew you hadn't been around as much but figured you'd come around when time allowed. You are a spectacular person and the fact you can take a step back and smell the roses so to speak is wonderful. You rock x x

  3. You know what? While I will miss seeing your beautiful face popping up so frequently all over my various timelines, I am happy that you are happy. We always know what we need and I'm really pleased that you recognise what you want and are able to have that.

    Be kind to yourself

    Mags B xx

  4. Very, very wise words Betty. I find this time of year is perfect for looking back over the busyness of Summer - seeing how much I've achieved and what goals are leftover. I then take a long hard look at those goals and decide which ones I will wrap up carefully and nurture through the cold dark months ready to put new energy and enthusiasm into them in the spring; and which ones have lost their purpose and place in my life and I toss them out with no feeling of failure, because life changes day by day and we change day by day, so the goal we had six months ago may no longer be relevant.

    You're so right Betty. As soon as something that we used to love becomes a chore, we need to slam the brakes on and figure out why.

    Wishing you much love and happiness.

    J x

  5. Totally get where you're coming from and I think there is a lot of social media fatigue going round right now, I know I've been defintiely feeling it. I think the ease of access to these sites what with smart phones etc makes us feel that we can't live with out it but we know we can because most of us have before the golden age of the internet. And I think it's good to take a break and remember that it's not the be all and end all, I know most of us rely on the internet for business/work as well but like our jobs we shouldn't let it consume us and we should take time out to enjoy other stuff. I love coming across posts like this because it reminds me every now and again that i'm not the only one feeling this way.


  6. Nothing but respect for your decision. Make and appreciate your priorities. RESPECT your LIFE!

  7. Oh yes yes enjoy life. My oldest is 27 and the youngest 7. They grow in a blink. Isn't it all the little things that really matter, I will look out for you here.
    xxxooo e

  8. Go you Betty. I sometimes experience ugly feelings when I compare myself to others. Comparison is the root of all evil and it's so destructive - sometimes I have to take a social media holiday to recover from it. It's testament to your strength that you have recognised it's having an effect and are stepping off the throttle a teeny bit to live and enjoy your life. I've no doubt there are oodles of good things to come from you. xx


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