I've lived as a fat person for most of my adult life. I am very happy with what I see in the mirror and my self esteem requires nobodies acceptance.
This does not make me immune to life's irritations though and here are five things which if I never heard again I would be just fine and dandy with
#1 But you have such a pretty face
|Its hard being so beautiful|
Now being told I have a pretty face is a lovely thing. I spend a lot of time painting it so praise for my artwork is always welcome.
Where I have a problem is when it is handed as pity praise. The delivery of which tends to come in one of two flavours:
Flavour # 1-You have such a pretty face you would be off the Richter scale if you were slimmer.
Flavour # 2-obviously being fat is a bit repulsive but you have a pretty face so that's something.
You do not have to quantify your compliment.It does not mean you have questionable judgement if you find a fat girls face pretty. If you want to tell me you think I am pretty then just say so-no ifs, no buts, no gentle cajoling to lose a stone. Just hand out the damn compliment or don't.
Either works for me.
#2 You don't sweat much for a fat lass
|No but I sweat a lot for a chainsaw wielding maniac-come sniff me|
This weird observation has been handed to me on a couple of occasions both times when I have been in workout gear obviously on my way to or from some form of exercise.
Its another form of body shaming, the implication being that fat bodies are generally sweatier and dirtier than thin ones. Its not funny, no one is laughing. Fuck off.
#3 She was a really big girl, much bigger than you
|Oi you, yes you the body snark-shut it you muppet|
When you attack someone based on their size you are using the lowest form of spite. Reassuring someone with you that its fine because the person being discussed is in a different league of flab to them is simply an attempt to normalise body shaming. Its not normal.Its horrible. Stop it.
#4 I bet you love Adele/Dawn French/Beth Ditto
|Inside this bag are the amount of effs I give about Adele-Guess how many, go on|
#5 Lets ditch the diet and be "naughty"
|Just eat it-or don't|
Its as if our round soft bodies are a living embodiment of appetite gone wild. Newsflash-I don't put food into "naughty" or "nice" categories or seek out excuses to gorge with abandon.
I eat what I want when I want-that's why I'm fat. Treating a cream scone as if its one step removed from the orgy scene in Caligula is just tedious.
I'm not a cheerleader for eating shit food so don't seek my encouragement. I don't care and no I don't want to "share chips" just order the fricking chips.
These are the five fat things that I could happily live without ever hearing again. What are yours?
And if you liked this why not check out my previous "5 Fat Myths" Vlog.
All content (text, photos and other) are the property of Betty Pamper (aka Perelandra Beedles) unless otherwise stated. Please refrain from copying any material without recognition of the author and a link to the source on this blog