Wednesday, 3 July 2013

5 Big Myths About Fattys

It would seem despite huge strides being made in regards to body acceptance there are still lots of weird and wonderful myths surrounding fat people which sadly I see being parroted almost daily. I would like to smash some of these misconceptions  wide open because quite honestly they are tosh and they make my eye twitch.

And for those of you who can't view clips-here is the analogue version.
Myth #1
All Fat people Are Jolly
fat yes? Jolly, not really

Many people still think those of us with a more rotund appearance are sunnier, quicker to laugh at ourselves and don't take ourselves too seriously. Newsflash the only thing fat people share is ooh let me think "NOTHING" 
Some of us are jolly, some of us are downright miserable bastards and everything else inbetween. I love Dawn French but not all fat women are like her. 
We don't all want to sleep with Lenny Henry, we don't all love Terry's Chocolate oranges and we aren't all funny or jolly.Grumpy enough for you?

Fat people survive on a diet of junk food.

er I would have preferred the risotto

Yet again not all fat people are the same. Sure some people are overweight because they think eating a KFC is getting one of their five a day but that's rarer than you would think. Despite the channel 4 documentaries showing fatties drinking litre bottle of coke  with their morning mars bar I for one never eat junk food. I eat like a queen, I'm a fabulous cook and adore good food, fine wine and to be honest am vaguely insulted that anyone would think my size is due to me treating my body like a dustbin.Sure I'm greedy but only for the good stuff.

Myth # 3
All fat people are forever on or about to start a diet
Please stop talking about red and green days my precious

Please don't tell me about your diet,your new weight loss supplement or your lap band. I am just not interested. I have done the whole diet thang, got the tee-shirt, paid for the therapy to undo the damage and now I don't give two fooks what you are or are not eating.
 If dieting makes you happy, all power to your elbow, just don't assume I want to know. I've paid for Rosemary Connolly's house and should by rights have shares in weight watchers. Those days are behind me.

Myth #4
Only chubby chasers fancy big girls. 

Honestly flowers would have been fine

Yet again don't believe everything you watch on the tellybox. Yes there are certain pockets of the population who only want to date very large ladies and then feed them up like pate ducks (possibly until they stroke out) but most men are much higher life forms and lots of them actually find women with big boobs and big booty's sexy. Its not a  fetish, its just the call of hormones. In the same way some men prefer brunettes, athletic types, busty blonde's or sheep (every pan has a lid)

Myth 5
Fat chicks don't hate or envy skinny ones
Thin, fat, pear, apple or hourglass-its all good baby

Don't buy into the daft things you see wafting around the Internet. Its just as abusive to refer to a thin girl as a"bag of bones" as it is to refer to a plus size chick as jabba. Having endured many, many taunts over the years it will never be fat girls perpetrating this I promise you. In my case my best friend,, mum,and  sisters are all beautifully slender. I adore them but their slimness doesn't make me feel bad about myself. Its just a point of difference.Like different coloured eyes. I will wrestle to the death anyone who trys to justify making anyone feel bad about themselves. Its just not cool. Don' do it.End of. 

So there you have it. These were the first 5 myths I wanted to bust. 
Which misconceptions about being overweight drive you insane? please let me know and maybe we can revisit this feature.

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  1. I just wanted to say how inspiring I find you. I am size 16, a size bigger than before I had my son and am trying so hard to see the beauty in myself, say sod the diet and live in the moment. I find it easy to see how wonderful other ladies look but am struggling to extend the same courtesy to myself. Your blog makes me smile and feel proud to be me, even for a little while, so thank you :-)

  2. Love this list! One myth I DESPISE is... because I'm fat I am going to be desperately grateful for ANY male attention I receive, good or bad. So men have free rein to be as rude and as crass as they want to be, and I will swoon and fall at their feet, eternally grateful that they at least paid attention to me.

  3. Love this list and love your blog! Voted for you as plus sized blogger earlier today. One myth that annoys me is that because I'm fat I'm in some way cuddly or that my body is public property. Random men believe that they can come up and touch me, grab my bum, cuddle me or even try to physically pick me up. Then they whinge that I'm a miserable b*tch if I tell them to keep their hands to themselves.

  4. The myth I'd like to bust is that fat people are lazy. I'm a size 18 and lead an extremely busy and active life. I'm a mum to two active kids,loving wife,studying a double degree in nursing and midwifery which involves long shifts on my feet, run my own business as a cleaner to help put (healthy) food on the table and still manage to walk every morning, swim twice a week and go for a run or cycle at weekends......large as it is, this body of mine works like a charm and is certainly not the result of a sedentary lifestyle.

  5. I think what gets me is just that people look at me and assume I must be really unhappy. Sure, I have my days where I wish this bit didn't wobble or that bit didn't stick out so much, and there are a thousand double chins I'd take out of photographs, but I have a happy household who enjoy life, eachother, a plethora of other positive things and a large plate of good food at the end of a day. That doesn't mean I'm sad or desperate to be/look like somebody else, and I find that many people just kind of make that assumption!

  6. What I hate is being told that if I just lost weight I'd feel better--I have really bad feet due to chronic and lifelong plantar fasciitis. My feet have hurt since the day I was born and while I was always a corn fed baby, I was not as big as some of the infants I see today. I was a healthy weight baby with few health issues until I developed allergies/sinus infections/ear infections around between the ages of 5-7. I became lethargic, didn't eat, lost weight, my hair suffered from the lack of energy, etc... so the only time I've been even what is considered 'average' I was actually very sick. In 5th grade I was 4'9" and weighed 129. In high school I was 5'2" and weighed 135 and never wore below a size 10. I'm also very heavy chested naturally--42 DDD and have issues related to such heavy breasts. My feet have hurt since the day I learned to walk and a lifetime of working on my feet and wearing inappropriate 'cute' shoes have nearly destroyed my ability to walk comfortably. I wear custom made, non-insurance eligible orthotics on a daily basis, have had cortisone shots in the heels to try to relieve the pain, and have purchased the recommended extremely expensive orthopedic loafer type shoes to wear. All to no avail. I recently lost a large amount of weight in a very short time due to peritonitis and an ileostomy--30 pounds in 10 days.. I did not lose fat, I lost muscle mass and strength and did not begin to regain that strength until all the surgeries to repair my colon issue was finished and I began to build strength and eat again. True it was nice to get into a size zmaller than I had been, but I regained the weight I'd lost and am okay with that. I am now 5'2" and weigh 205 pounds. What drives me more nuts than anything is that I have clothes that are 20 years old that I can still wear that are a size 14/16 and if I go buy clothes today, I have to buy a size 22/24 for them to fit--usually the boobs knock me out of the misses category. My body shape is the same as it was 20 years ago, the clothing sizes have altered to make anyone without the pre-requisite stick shape feel fat because they have to buy sizes that are way off from what they used to buy.

  7. Have you heard the one that fat people are stupid?
    Obviously because I'm soooo big I must be stupid, don't I know that if I didn't eat crap/did exercise regularly/wore all black I wouldn't be as big?

    I have a degree in politics, an incredible grasp of the english language, a fabulous personality and a love of cake - none of these are mutually exclusive!

    But seriously though folks, another FABULOUS blog post!

  8. I fucking love #3, especially the photo caption. I would propose, but you're already taken! ;) A myth I'd like to bust is that fat people smell. I smell all right - I smell GORGEOUS! Personal hygiene has feck all to do with size and a lot to do with water & a lathering agent coming into contact with a body. That is all! I'll get off my soap box now! :) x x

  9. Yes - fat people are lazy - not! I hold down a full-time job, run my home and have several hobbies, walk my dog and am always off to the theatre or a concert. Did you see Katie Hopkins saying she would never give a fat person a job because they are lazy - wake up woman!


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