Wednesday, 17 June 2015

How To Make Your Own Luck

Do you ever look at other people and wonder how they manage to get all the luck when it comes to the world of work?  
It's as if when they fart a rainbow of fortune follows in their wake.
We all know these people and you would have to be a saint not to get the occasional twinge of envy but here's the thing. To a certain degree I think you can make your own luck and I certainly think I've made a lot of mine.

I should be so lucky-Rubbish make your own luck

Years ago when I graduated from university with a media degree (later described by the Guardian as the most useless degree it was possible to gain) I couldn't turn a corner without bumping into someone who had landed an amazing work placement because their dad was best friends with a film director or who has stumbled into a researcher role on Eastenders because the producer had given a talk at their exclusive all girls school. 
As the product of a polytechnic education and with no one in my inner circle having any connection with TV (other than watching it) I would sometimes curse my humble beginnings. 
So how did I counteract this? One word-Perseverance.

Perseverance is my middle name 

 I carried on applying for jobs, working on shoots for free (funded by bar jobs, stints in toothpaste factories, lots of very non glamorous part time stuff ) and finally I got a break. It took a while but once my foot was in that door I was never going to take it out.
I was first in, brightest eyed, bushiest tailed, and I found the harder I worked, the luckier I became.
I've always been a great believer in setting out goals, writing them down no matter how unachievable they seem and then visualising every step it will take to get there. Its like a mantra. 
I fill whole notebooks with dreams, aspirations, maps of where I want life to go. The physical act of writing it down seems to make it more tangible. More real. Ive written it, so it can happen.

Directing a video shoot in LA for Sony sometime in the early 2000's

I trained as a director at the BBC and was the only non public school educated person on the trainee scheme.Did I feel I had to work harder because I was working class? no I worked harder because I wasn't going to piss any opportunities up the wall, not when I would be paying my student loans off for five years. Self belief, positivity and hard work is a heady mix and you will be amazed how far it can take you.

Motherhood signaled a new career

After 15 years of working my way up to Senior Producer at Granada and film and TV projects manager at Sony I was ready for a change. 
I had a baby, the long hours on set didn't fit well with motherhood so I decided self employment was the way forward.I had always wanted to be my own boss and needed a job which would creatively fulfill me, pay the bills and fit in with childcare (a fairly tall order)

I had always dreamed of writing and having written scripts for years knew I had some ability so I just did exactly what I had done before. I got on with it and worked really hard until my luck changed. I wrote for free, I blogged like a demon and one tiny piece in the Guardian caught the eye of a book publisher who offered me a book deal. I made my own luck with a combination of self belief and hard work and if I can do it anyone can.I now work full time as a writer, blogger and social media manager and still get to pick up my little girl from school.

posing next to my book in Waterstones

Writing my blog also led me and my husband to design our own range of plus size tee shirts and the Nicky Rockets brand goes from strength to strength.Its all about hard work and grasping opportunities.

Seeing my brand on the catwalk-another dream fulfilled (with  a lot of hard work)

That's not to say that sometimes you can't feel your luck has run out, or you are experiencing a time of misfortune ( a few years ago  I had to change my pen name after someone copyrighted it, the same month my Nan died and I got my tax bill which was more money than I had-we refer to it as "hell week") but if you get knocked down, get up again, no one said it would be easy, Accept that there is no such thing as an easy ride. 
Most people who appear to lead a charmed life are like swans, gliding along in a serene fashion but working like a demon underneath the surface. 
Make a list of your dreams, promise yourself you will do everything in your gift to help realise them, work like a banshee and then sit back and let the good fortune start to roll in.

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  1. Thanks Betty, a very inspiring post from someone who also comes from a working class background who finished uni last year with a BA in Creative Writing,(and was told it would be looked down on like a media studies degree. pht!) Plus at 41, I wonder if it's too late to persue my dream career as a writer, but I try to ignore the 'shitty committee' in my head and carry on regardless.
    Thank you for your wise words, and well done for all you've achieved. Cheers, Jo x

  2. Hi Betty, we are very much in a generation of instant gratification in all things, and the idea of a hard slog puts many people off before they even try. I think there are people in life who appear to have it all but in my experience thats not the reality for most of us. I have witnessed time and time again, someone doing spectacularly and effortlessly well in one area of their life to then see another area of their life spectacularly falls apart. I guess it the ying and yang or swings and roundabouts as my hubby likes to say.

  3. This is exactly what I needed to read today. You are a god damn inspiration lady and never let anyone tell you otherwise xxx

  4. How to make your own luck ... work your ass off! Love this post - very inspiring!

    C xx

  5. Hey Betty,

    Your post resonates with me so much because a few years ago I also graduated with a Media degree and it feels like it was a pointless degree. I long to write for a living and instead am stuck in a deadend office job with no way out it seems. I'm 26 years old and no further on my career path than when I first left university. I'm hoping this year I can find outlets to get my thoughts out there, instead of just my own little blog. I know I'm talented (however vain that may seem) but I just need other people to see it. Thank you for this post. It has inspired me to try harder to get where I want to be.Here's hoping 2016 is finally my year!

    1. Hi Natasha Please dont lose heart. Keep writing, keep blogging and it will all start to fall into place. How do I know? because I have sat just where you are with no obvious sign of change and yet changes have happened anyway xx


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