|Knowing when to quit doesnt make you week, it makes you smart|
As a hard working, goal orientated Capricorn I have always struggled with the concept of "walking away'
Im no masochist but until a situation is laid out in front of me in blazing technicolour as being unsolvable I tend to keep on chipping away in the hope of a positive outcome.
This has worked to my benefit on many occasions. Friendships which could have broken down because of a silly row have been resurrected to become wonderful again, work setbacks where everyone advised me to bail have turned out in my favour.
But being ultra determined can actually be a burden. Sometimes you have to know when to quit and over the last few weeks Ive realised that to walk away from a draining situation can illustrate as much strength (if not more) as staying the course.
I'm not being purposely enigmatic or mysterious when I say I can't discuss the recent scenario which has led me to this conclusion (and trust me it wouldn't really add anything to this post if I did) Needless to say I have had a revelation. When you stop banging your head against a wall, it stops hurting.
|There is much to be said for a graceful exit|
I'm tenacious, my default position if you put me in a corner is to come out fighting.This will never change and I don't want it to. But maybe I'm finally accruing enough life experience to realise that you have to choose your battles carefully.
If certain people or set ups continuously grind your gears,hovering over your life like a toxic cloud retreat can be the best strategy.
You cant change everything to your advantage. No matter how reasoned or eloquent your argument you will never get everyone to see things as you do- thats life.
When this becomes an insurmountable problem you can either howl at the moon at the unfairness of it all or just walk away to pastures new, making that satisfying clip clop sound on the floor with your high heels as you do it.
Years ago someone told me you should "always know when to leave the party" well the DJ is now playing Agadoo and someone is throwing up in the bushes so I have bid this particular predicament farewell. Wow it feels empowering.
Do you have problems with knowing when to give up?
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