Monday, 28 May 2012

Learning To Love Yourself Little By Little

Learning self acceptance when it comes to your appearance is an issue which many people regardless of shape or size struggle with. Whether you are ultra curvy, willowy or somewhere in the middle its often one of our biggest challenges-turning off the inner monologue which lists our imperfections when we look in the mirror.
Stop Listing Your "Imperfections"
I was reminded of this recently when I was doing hair and make up at one of my Vintage Pamper events. I was working on a beautiful girl, applying make up and when I asked how she would like her hair doing she told me under no circumstances did she want her ears on show, she "hated" them, she reiterated how awful they were and became slightly agitated at the thought of them being on show. I dutifully obliged and she went off looking all kinds of vintage fabulous with her shell likes discretely covered. In the process of doing her hair I looked at her ears and they were... perfectly normal. In fact as ears go they were rather fine indeed. That didn't matter though, in her head they were unattractive and this dictated how she wore her hair and was an obvious source of embarrassment.
Can you trace where your dissatisfaction with your appearance began?
Dissatisfaction with our appearance can sometimes be traced back to childhood (name calling in the playground or by siblings) or can grow as our figures change or it dawns on us that we don't appear to fit the conventional "ideal" of what it is to beautiful.Whatever the cause it can seriously blight our existences and I think is very damaging to the psyche if left unchecked.
One approach which I think can work wonders in how you view yourself is to focus very strongly on the parts of you that you do like.
Create some mental lists of all your good points-readdress the balance
With the same attention to detail you spend looking at yourself and pulling at your muffin top and pinching your bingo wings take a really long hard look at what parts of you are actually quite lovely and lavish them with attention.
If you have graceful wrists, start wearing mid length sleeves and rows of bamboo bracelets, a swan like neck adorn it a sparkly heart necklace, tiny waist, invest in some fab belts. 
By beginning to create mental lists of your good points you can drown out the negative voice which tells you "nothing looks good" and instead start to be more  balanced about your overall appearance.
Treat your body like a valued friend. never be cruel,always see the best and help it look fantastic

Never talk about your body in a negative hateful way. Treat it like its your best friend standing in the Primarni changing room.Refuse to listen to the negative critique going and offer its something to wear that looks fantastic and shows off their amazing boobs/bum/legs/arms/neck...scoop up arms of accessories and a pair of pretty shoes and tell them how rockin they look.
Rome wasn't built in a day and learning to like what you see in the mirror can take time but by taking some small steps in acknowledging that you have good points (in fact quite a few) you are part of the way to a much happier relationship with your rather amazing, clever sexy body.

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